As we wait for the current president to concede defeat or be removed, it might also be wise to review our relationships with people who may be rendered unstable by his particular sociopathy.
One thing that can be useful to know, is how some world leaders have dealt with the abuser; there may be lessons to be learned for US in our own families.
Becoming a gray rock is not a satisfactory lifestyle choice; we were all created to live full and happy lives, without having to cater to a narcissist's controlling demands. That said, during times of transition, during holiday seasons particularly, when there are situations outside of our control, gray rock may be a useful technique to employ, to self-protect.
Certainly, we are not designed to live in self-protection mode for long; this is why the past four years have been so traumatizing for so many of US. But now that we can see an end to it, we can gray rock the president, so to speak, ignoring his nonsense attempts to trigger resistance that would only feed his sadistic desire to threaten, maim others and destroy the lives of those he feels have wronged him by rejecting his abusiveness through their vote.
It's important we take care of ourselves at this time, and if that means not responding or reacting or visiting with people who only want to "trigger the libs," that is, cause pain, ok.
We don't have to respond to evil people nor acknowledge their evil abuses. This isn't the same as ignoring abuse; it just means we aren't going to feed it via a reaction. There will indeed - and should indeed- be a time to hold this president accountable for how he has abused and harmed our nation and damaged the transition of power to the president-elect.
But right now, be still. Be boring. Rest up. Stay home. Stay safe. Love your precious ones.
Protect yourself from narcissists. Don't react and feel free to ignore. Call out their enablers instead. Walk softly and carry a big stick. This is the strength our president-elect brings to the table, and with all his potential faults, he's handling this part well. It's right he show irritation the transition is not on schedule as it should be. It's also good he lets it play out and refuses to participate in drama.
If President-Elect Biden can do this, we can, too. That's the impact of leadership.
We The People have a stalker, a narcissistic abuser the majority of US have rejected, and such abusers rarely go calmly or quietly. This is a very dangerous time.
We can insist on a peaceful transition of power, however, and we are free to rebuke those in our own families who wish otherwise. Separate from them. Stay safe. There may be time in future to have those much-needed loving conversations, but not now. It's absolutely ok to calmly let abusers go. We don't have to know the future outcome of our decisions; we do have the freedom to live at peace. Be boring, heal up, get rested, be at peace. Be a gray rock.
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